How to Improve Your Sex Life: Unconventional Methods for Better Sex (Originally from HP)
How to Improve Your Sex Life: Unconventional Methods for Better Sex
If your love life is lacking, regardless of whether you are married or simply “together”, you may need to spice things up a little in the bedroom in order to bring new life to your relationship. Of course there are many conventional ways to do this, such as a date night, or a surprise getaway with your love, but we will be exploring some more unconventional ways to improve your sex life.
When we say “unconventional”, we are defining this as things that the mainstream public may not do, or at least most likely will not admit to doing. We do not endorsing anything illegal or extremely immoral. Some of these things may be outside of your comfort level, but that is the point. We want you to open up and explore new things, thus giving you new ways to spice up your sex life.
Reasons Behind a Lack Luster Love Life
The first thing you should delve into is the reason your love life, or sex life, is lacking. Many common factors, such as stress, scheduling conflicts, being tired, or being a new parent, can contribute to your lack of Mojo. There can also be medical reasons, such as depression, medications, or low testosterone if you are male, that can lead to problems with intimacy. If you believe the problem may be medically related please seek help from your physician. Many times the issues can be fixed with medications or tweaking of medications you are already on, and the physician is used to dealing with such issues, so there is no need to be shy about broaching the topic.
Another complaint I’ve heard many times from friends, both male and female, is that “it’s boring now, there is no spontaneity.” We are creatures of habit, however sometimes those very habits can be our downfall in the bedroom. Spicing things up might just reignite that spark, and bring your sex life back to life.
Small Changes can make a Difference
We’ve all heard it before, but it is true; small changes can make all the difference. Something as simple as wearing something nice before intimacy to show your partner you have put some effort into the preparation can make a huge difference in the pleasure both parties will receive. I often suggest to friends when discussing such issues that finding out what turns on their partner and wearing those scents, clothing styles, hairstyles (even as a wig), can often lead to increased intimacy since it shows the partner you are listening and care about what they find pleasure in.
Playing “dress-up” in adult costumes for your partner, or wearing a wig to be a “character” can spice things up quite a bit. It’s almost as though they are with someone new, which is always exciting. It may seem a bit awkward at first, but often times both parties get into the act, forget about the awkwardness, and let the passion flow.
Another change I often recommend to friends is the use of “personal enjoyment items.” These items can range from vibrators to rings, and all sorts of cordless things. While I won’t go in depth on this category, if your partner is open to the experience it can be amazing. For more information on this, check out my blog, where I will be going into a little more detail on this particular portion of the topic.
Send a sexy text, or “sext”, to your partner just to tell them you’re thinking of them, or what it is you have in mind for later. This can build anticipation and excitement. However, a warning on this one would be to please be mindful of where your partner may be when they receive the “sext”. A “sext” being receive while in a board meeting, or while teaching a class full of third-graders may lead to an argument as opposed to a intimate encounter.
Maybe it’s time to go “XXX”
Yes, most of us can agree that XXX features are tacky, especially if they attempt to have a story-line. However, in the heat of passion they may just be what is needed to put the performance over the top. I’m not suggesting making a “family porn night” by any means, however watching a few of these flicks together may spark some ideas of ways to liven things up in the bedroom. Maybe there is a position that you haven’t tried that your partner is interested in, and this method provides great research and visuals on how to accomplish those moves. Of course, if you are morally opposed to adult feature films, then this one is definitely not for you.
This one is also not for the faint of heart; starring in your own “feature film” with your partner. True, there is a huge trust issue that will come into play with this one, especially since the advent of the internet and sites such as YouTube, however if you trust your partner explicitly or simply don’t mind if such things get out, this one is sure to spice things up for most people.
Communication is Key
Regardless of what methods you choose to take to liven things up, remember to communicate with your partner. Ensuring both of you are on the same page about the relationship, the reasons why your sex life is lacking, and what to do to remedy those issues will help ensure that both of you are able to be satisfied with the end results.
If something feels good to you, tell your partner so they will know you like it and they should do it more often. If it doesn’t feel quite right, let them know this as well so they can alter their technique to see if it improves things at all. Also don’t be afraid to verbally and non-verbally guide your partner to the right spots of your body to stimulate all of your senses. Maybe you have a “sensitive spot” on the back of your neck or the inside of your thigh, your partner may never discover this unless you help lead the way.
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